Sunday Night Journal — July 24, 2011
As almost anyone who is at all interested in the matter knows, the
promulgation of Pope Paul VI’s Humanae Vitae reaffirming
the ancient Christian ban on artificial
(barrier or chemical) methods of avoiding pregnancy came at the end
of a decades-long struggle for their acceptance. The pope took his
stand in opposition to a Vatican-commissioned committee which had
been appointed to study the question and make a recommendation, and
his teaching was widely rejected. The ensuing bitterness on the part
of the proponents of birth control was a major factor in the
doctrinal wars that followed Vatican II and are still not completely
over, though the more extreme progressive forces, those which would
have turned the Church into a form of liberal Protestantism, seem to
have been defeated.
At the time I came into the
Church, in 1981, the bitter diatribe of an older Catholic, usually a
woman, against Humanae Vitae was
a regular part of the life of the Church, not only in progressive
publications like the National Catholic Reporter but
also in parish life. I vividly remember a talk given by a woman whose
name I can’t remember now, but who was at the time (early ‘80s)
visible in the liberal-feminist Catholic world. She was ostensibly
discussing the moral theology of the question, but by the time she
finished was practically jumping up and down in her fury against the
Church’s teaching. I still hear this voice sometimes, though
more often it’s second-hand, as someone of a younger generation
recounts the hardships of his parents, the acceptance of artificial
contraception having long since become a non-issue for most
Catholics.
Around that same time, a new generation
of Catholics, some of them converts and some of them orthodox younger
Catholics, were beginning to believe that the Church had a point,
after all, on this question. They—we—were appalled by the doctrinal
and liturgical devastation wrought by progressive Catholicism in the
1970s, and by the breakdown of marriage and family life in society at
large that had followed the sexual revolution, of which the birth
control pill had been a major enabler, and were open to the
traditional teaching. (My wife and I, as converts,
felt that there would have been something dishonest in becoming
Catholic if we were not going to follow this difficult teaching.)
So-called Natural Family Planning,
NFP—meaning, in general, all the methods of avoiding pregnancy
which do not rely on blocking the result of the sexual act
itself—appeared to these young couples as a great gift from
God. Very few felt themselves prepared to deal with the arrival of a
new baby every two years or less, nor did they want to violate the
Church’s teaching. But neither did they want to abstain from
sex for long periods of time. NFP seemed to solve the
problem, and was embraced by a significant number of these younger
people (though not, as everyone knows, by Catholics at large, the
vast majority of whom were hardly aware that the Church still taught
what it had always taught, and would have reacted, if they had known,
as if they had been told to treat a fever with leeches).
Now we have come to another stage
in the debate, a stage in which those who embrace the teaching have
struggled with it and are in some cases asking the same questions
that their parents and/or grandparents asked: is this
teaching really binding? Do we really have to live with this
hardship?
Coincidentally, I have, within the past week or so, come across
three very impassioned discussions of the matter on Catholic blogs.
There is this
post by Danielle Bean at Crisis (249 comments as of the time I am
writing this), and this
one by Jennifer Fulwiler at the National Catholic Register (138
comments), and this
one by Daniel Nichols at Caelum et Terra (202
comments). I’ve read all the comments only on the Caelum et
Terra post; the others I only skimmed. The CetT discussion goes off
into the casuistic weeds at several points, and to read them all
would take quite a while, but the comments from someone who signs
herself “AnonymousBadCatholic” are worth seeking out, as they
tell a story which illuminates the heart of the problem: a couple
who intended to keep the Church’s teaching but have
found themselves unable to do so.
What we hear frequently in these
discussions is the disappointment of those who have tried to follow
the teaching, and have found themselves in serious distress of one
kind or another because of it. Some have responded with bitterness
and decided that the teaching must be wrong, some have made
compromises which trouble their consciences, some have resigned
themselves to abstinence. Many feel that practicing NFP has strained
their marriages seriously. Many seem to have a sense of betrayal that
NFP did not prove to be as easy or as effective or both as they had
been led to believe.
I do believe NFP has been, for
many people, a manageable response to
the problem. But that is not the same thing as a solution.
There is no solution to the problem of sex.
The inescapable fact is that sex
has a very clear biological function, which is to make babies, but
that the activity is so pleasurable that people want it far more
often than they want to have a baby. There are a limited number of
ways to handle this—I don’t say “resolve”—and none of them is completely satisfactory.
There is, of course, artificial
birth control, including sterilization, as practiced by most people in the
industrialized world. But few who give it much thought will deny
that its widespread adoption has helped to weaken marriage and the
family by weakening and in many people destroying the sense that
there is a necessary connection
between sex and procreation; I have often heard secular progressives
make fun of the very idea. Sex has become trivialized, and while
there is surely a great deal more of it taking place now than there
was 50 years ago, I see no evidence whatsoever that people in general
are any happier for it. I could write at length about that, but let
it suffice for the moment that there is ample confirmation of Paul
VI’s prediction:
Another
effect that gives cause for alarm is that a man who grows accustomed
to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a
woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium,
reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own
desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should
surround with care and affection.
On
the individual level, there are potential health effects from the Pill
(which I suspect have been under-researched or at least
under-publicized—I really wonder about the incidence of breast
cancer, for instance), and for all methods the the inducement of a
false sense of total control which suggests a resort to abortion in
the event of failure; nor does it appear to make marriages any
happier, as it was promised to do. And that’s to say nothing of
the moral argument.
NFP is workable for many, but, as noted above, there are many
others who for one reason or another do not seem able to make it work
at all reliably, and for those who have truly serious reasons for
avoiding pregnancy it may seem—and be—too great a risk.
Prolonged abstinence, for a married couple who love and desire each other,
requires heroic virtue, and it’s not
reasonable to expect that of very many people; also, it is likely to
be a great strain, to say the least, on a marriage, possibly increasing the temptation to infidelity, at least on the husband’s part.
And then there is the entire rejection of “family planning” in the ordinary sense, what Daniel refers to in the CetT post as Supernatural Family Planning:
put it all in God’s hands, make love when you like, and accept babies as they come. Again, this
is workable for some couples, but others may find themselves with too
many children too quickly. The limits naturally vary with income, health, and
psychology. Leaving aside the first two, not everyone is equal in
their ability to cope with the stresses of childrearing. But we can
assume that many if not most couples will find themselves at some
point feeling that they can’t handle another child, though they
are still fertile, which brings them round to the dilemma.
What emerges from the conversations on these blogs is confirmation
that there simply is no solution:
that is, no means by which we can make love as often as we like but
have babies only when we want them, and that does not have serious
negative physical or psychological or social side effects.
Love and sex are two of the
sweetest joys of the human condition. It should not surprise anyone
who believes in the Fall that we are never able to enjoy them without
limit and without pain. I often wonder whether they will exist in the
world to come. It seems impossible that something so very central to
physical and emotional human life would simply disappear, as it is
presumed to do in purely spiritual conceptions of heaven. Speculation
as to what form, or trans-form, they may take, is idle, but surely
they will be there in some way, if the phrase “resurrection of
the body” means anything. In the meantime, all we can do is muddle through, doing our best and trusting in God’s mercy.